Room to Grow or Doomed to Fail: The Truth about Toxic Relationships

The concept of relationships is as old as time. Everyone needs to have someone in their life to communicate with, to share a life with, to just exist with. However, there are some relationships that grow to be toxic for us and for others as well. They affect our mental and physical health in a very negative matter. What matters, is whether we want to recognize those toxic relationships and change, or hold on to them and be unable to let go. I bet there have been times when people we know, whether they be our friends, family, or even ourselves, have had a hard time letting go of a toxic relationship within their lives.

If we human beings are most afraid of anything, it would be change. We are afraid to welcome it, we are afraid to accept it, and we are afraid to move forward with it. Because of this fear, we are unable to let go of people and/or relationships no matter how toxic they may be. The fact is, people, change with time, and because of that change, relationships start to fail. If we are ever to enter a healthy, successful relationship, with whoever it may be, we need to be open to their changes, and accept the changes we as people go through as well. A healthy relationship is where there is room to grow, but still stay side by side. If a person starts to suffocate within a relationship, it is going to start affecting not just your partner, but will affect you even more.

A key in maintaining a healthy relationship is honesty. If we start lying to ourselves, and to our partners, are you being a good partner? Because one rule that is constant in this world is that no matter how many lies you may tell, the truth will come out in the end. Be it a romantic relationship, familial relationship, or friendship, telling lies in that relationship will tear it apart because of the lack of honesty. And if the person you share that relationship with finds out the truth much later, it is more likely to explode than it would be finding out the truth regarding a matter at the beginning of the issue/matter.

I'm going to keep this short because I know many people don't read this blog. To reiterate, relationships are a two-way street, that's true, but if a relationship turns toxic if room to grow is no longer possible in the relationship. The only way for relationships to mature and last for a lifetime is for both parties to be open to changes to themselves and to their partners. Being unwilling to accept the changes, being unable to give yourself and/or your partner the room to grow, is going to breed suffocation within that relationship, causing it to become venomous. And being unwilling to let go of that relationship, is going to harm yourself more than others. Ultimately, we have to decide what is best for us and for those who are still in our lives, because we live in an era where life has gotten too short.